Many of us were raised to keep secrets. They have often served to keep us safe in some way. Over time they can become a growing burden.
What is the big deal about secrets? We all have them, right?
If we were afraid of the alcoholic, or drug addict, violent or hyper-critical person, in our home we developed survival strategies to cope. Our painful feelings of fear, shame, or low self-worth, can contribute to our developing and maintaining protective secrets.
The secrets that can be damaging are those that we keep because they say something about ourselves that we don't like. We believe that others would not like us if they knew about them. At some point they can even prevent us from moving ahead with our lives.
Only you can know if you have damaging secrets. They can sap your energy, discourage or immobilize you, and keep you stuck in destructive patterns.
Notice when you have strong reactions to something or someone. Anger, frustration, irritability, substance abuse, overindulgence, and even relationship conflicts can all have roots in a damaging secret.
Make a decision to do something about it. Talk to others you trust about how you feel. Make the changes you need to have a better quality of life without the burden of secrets.
Live Well.
What is the big deal about secrets? We all have them, right?
If we were afraid of the alcoholic, or drug addict, violent or hyper-critical person, in our home we developed survival strategies to cope. Our painful feelings of fear, shame, or low self-worth, can contribute to our developing and maintaining protective secrets.
The secrets that can be damaging are those that we keep because they say something about ourselves that we don't like. We believe that others would not like us if they knew about them. At some point they can even prevent us from moving ahead with our lives.
Only you can know if you have damaging secrets. They can sap your energy, discourage or immobilize you, and keep you stuck in destructive patterns.
Notice when you have strong reactions to something or someone. Anger, frustration, irritability, substance abuse, overindulgence, and even relationship conflicts can all have roots in a damaging secret.
Make a decision to do something about it. Talk to others you trust about how you feel. Make the changes you need to have a better quality of life without the burden of secrets.
Live Well.
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